Lately, I’ve been asking myself these same questions. I exercise and I eat healthy, but to be honest, I still find myself critiquing my womanly curves and thinking I need to lose some weight. It’s tempting to say “Let’s get on a 3 month day plan and we’ll be skinny and fit and everything will be perfect in 90 days.” But I know better.
Yes, it normally takes three months to make changes in our bodies, but I really don’t want to focus too much on that and I’ll tell you why. For me, when there’s a looming end date (a diet goal date, a party, an event) I tend to under eat and over train to make this artificial deadline, which could easily set me up to overeat on day 91. On the other hand, I could get so hyper-focused on wanting to change my food and exercise in order to have “success” by this date that I feel paralyzed and do anything, which then leads to eating too much and not working out and only feeling like a failure. This is why a timeline needs to stay on the back burner and not be my focus. Instead of planning 90 days out, I need to plan 90 seconds from now. What will today look like? What is my food plan, today? What exercise will I do, today? And once I have a plan, can today be more than just about my body?
Today I’d like to appreciate the good people in my life and say thank you. Today I can call one friend and listen with energy. Today I can check in with myself and acknowledge how I genuinely feel in that moment without trying to brush it off or eat it away. Today I can breathe deeply for 10 seconds when I feel indecisive or overwhelmed.